A lady I know
takes a lot of pride in her lawn. She has it mowed meticulously,
and feeds it and waters it lovingly. Still, she can't keep the
crabgrass out, no matter what she tries.
Once, she even wrote to the Department of Agriculture for advice.
She explained that she loved her lawn and begged them to tell
her what to do about the crabgrass.
Finally, the
answer came back: "Learn to love the crabgrass, too."
There's an old saying that what can't be cured must be endured.
I'm not sure I agree with the wording, but the idea of accepting
what we can't do anything about is a good and valid one.
Ever try to change another person -- a husband or wife or lover
or friend -- to suit your idea of what they should be like? Then
you know what it's like to have crabgrass -- which, when you
get right down to it, is something pretty awesome all by itself!
If you're
trying to recreate someone in your own image, then one of you
will be redundant.